Don't Make Peace With What Is Fighting Your Purpose

  

   I was having a discussion with someone who told me that he has a hot temper, and when he gets angry, nothing and nobody can calm him down. He said he has done many unthoughtful things in moments of anger. He went further to say that everybody in his family knows him for that.

And he is a Christian, Spirit-filled.

I have also known him to show signs of this anger here and there. Even in situations that are not necessary or worth the anger, he still pours out rage. And this keeps affecting his relationship with people.

What struck me most was not even the anger itself, but how comfortable he had become with it. It had become part of his identity. He spoke about it as though it was something that could not be changed, something everyone had simply accepted about him.

    This story shows how many people or believers out there think that anger, lack of joy in the form of mood swings, bitterness, unforgiveness, and lust are just their weaknesses and part of who they are. They have become so familiar with these things that they no longer see them as enemies. They have made peace with them and fail to see the danger and what those things are costing them.

Some have accepted anger as their personality. Some have accepted sadness and hopelessness as normal. Some have accepted lust as a battle they can never overcome. Others have accepted fear, insecurity, jealousy, or pride as permanent companions.

   Meanwhile, these things keep limiting them. They damage relationships, hinder growth, rob them of peace, and keep them from fully expressing the life that God has called them to live.

Then you wonder why you keep finding yourself stagnant or struggling to leave certain seasons of life, yet you remain stuck in them year after year.

Forgetting that in fulfilling purpose, the thing the devil attacks is usually the thing that gets the job done. If it is your love, he attacks your heart. If it is your joy, he attacks your mind. If it is your purity, he attacks your desires. If it is your confidence, he attacks your identity.

His goal is simple: stop the work before it begins.

    The devil understands that a believer walking in freedom is dangerous. A believer who has conquered anger can help others overcome anger. A believer who has found freedom from lust can help others find freedom too. A believer full of joy can bring hope to discouraged people.

So he will first try to make you a victim of the very thing you are supposed to conquer.

He will try to make you a servant to what should have been your slave. He will keep you bound by the very thing God intends for you to overcome and help others overcome.

    Maybe you keep battling unnecessary anger. Maybe you struggle with a lack of joy. Maybe you constantly fight thoughts of impurity. Maybe fear has become your daily companion.

Do not normalize it.

Do not celebrate it.

Do not excuse it.

And do not settle with it.

What you tolerate today may become the chain that limits your effectiveness tomorrow.

    This is why it is a battle of faith to insist on the truth of God's Word until it is formed in you. Not until you merely hear it. Not until you merely quote it. But until it becomes your reality.

The fact that something has been with you for years does not mean it belongs to you.

The fact that your family is known for it does not mean it is your inheritance.

The fact that people have accepted it about you does not mean God has accepted it for you.

    There is a difference between acknowledging a weakness and agreeing with it. The moment you begin to agree with what God wants to change, you stop pursuing transformation.

    So, say no to being at peace with threats that will eventually kill the work of God in your life.

Refuse to be at peace with excesses that should be cut off.

    This is also a call not to allow the devil to keep you stranded on one path. Discover the areas where you need help and allow the Word of God and the Holy Spirit to breathe upon them.

Bring those areas before God honestly. Stop defending them. Stop hiding them. Stop giving them new names to make them look acceptable.

Do not hold on to them as though they are a lottery you won. This is the devil using them to keep you stagnant.

   And remember, peace is not always enough reason to know that you are on the right path of destiny. Sometimes growth requires confrontation. Sometimes freedom requires warfare. Sometimes purpose requires you to fight against habits, mindsets, and strongholds that have become comfortable.

My dear, Do not allow the devil to shut you down.

Refuse to be discouraged.

Refuse to be distracted.

Refuse to be engaged with the devil's lies.

Do not stop trying.

Do not stop believing.

Do not stop growing.

Strength is administered to conquer them.

Grace is available.

The Holy Spirit is willing to help.

  So, tell us there something you are willing to change and allow Holyspirt to help you let go?

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The Death of Stephen Birthed Paul: Why God Sometimes Says Let Go

       The death of Stephen birthed Paul. Something needs to die in you for something much greater to be birthed through you. Jesus had to die for our salvation and redemption to be made free for us (John 12:24, Romans 5:8-10).

      Stephen was a Steward in the early days church and a true preacher of the gospel of Christ(Acts 6:1-6), he was stone for preaching Christ but after his death, Saul — who later became Paul and was one of the chief people behind Stephen’s death — encountered Christ, and his ministry began. He went from nation to nation preaching the same Gospel of Christ which he once fought against (Acts 8:1, Acts 9:1-22).

      He was beaten, stripped, hungry, stoned, imprisoned, and afflicted for this Gospel far more than Stephen suffered (2 Corinthians 11:23-27), yet he passed through them all with unfailing faith, without wavering, until he fulfilled his course (2 Timothy 4:7)

    What is that thing you are holding dearly, and God is saying, “Let it go”?

It seems so important. You cannot imagine your life without that thing or that person, yet God is asking, “Can you let go now?”

     Maybe the pain is too much that you cannot see yourself forgiving this person or relating with him/her . Are you still bleeding based on past events and memories? God is knocking in your heart with only one question can you let go?

There Are Reasons Why God Is Saying Let Go

1. God Has Something Greater Prepared for You “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” — Jeremiah 29:11

   God is not asking you to let go because He is wicked or because He no longer cares about you. He is asking because He has greater things prepared for you — things bigger than what you are currently holding onto.

   There is no way you can lay hold of what God has prepared for you while still tightly holding onto the past or pain. Sometimes letting go is for your own growth, healing, and betterment. 

2. It Is for His Glory

   While Stephen was being stoned, he looked up into heaven and saw the glory of God and Jesus standing at the right hand of God (Acts 7:55-56).

The people were already angry at him while he preached the Gospel, and he knew the consequence could be death, but that did not stop him. Because of his faith and boldness in God, he continued preaching.

When he told them what he saw, the multitude rushed at him and stoned him to death. Yet with great faith he committed his spirit into the hands of God and prayed: “Lord, lay not this sin to their charge.”  Acts 7:60

Immediately after, he gave up the ghost.

   After Stephen’s death, persecution increased and the believers were scattered abroad, going everywhere preaching the Gospel (Acts 8:1-4). The Gospel spread heavily because one man laid down his life for Christ.

Sometimes God is saying let go so that His glory can be revealed through your obedience.

3. Sometimes God Is Saying Let Go for the Sake of Assignment

    Maybe that thing you are holding onto was never written in your divine script.

Just like Saul in Acts 9:1-9, he collected letters from the high priest to go to Damascus and punish the disciples. Filled with passion and zeal for what he believed was right, he encountered Christ on the way.

Right there, he let go of that corrupt passion, his love for persecuting believers, and his identity as a Pharisee in order to follow Christ (Acts 9:18-20).

All that while, he was working passionately in ignorance.

After encountering Christ, he left everything, got baptized, and within days began boldly preaching the same Gospel he once persecuted people for believing. The people were amazed.

You do not know what you are capable of until you are willing to let go and realign yourself with God’s divine assignment for your life.

Some people are passionately pursuing what God never assigned to them.

4. God May Be Saying Let Go Because He Is No Longer in That Place

    God works in seasons and dispensations. Sometimes God says let go because His present move no longer fits into the place, mindset, or thing you are still holding onto. He is calling you higher.

Many Christians make the mistake of clinging tightly to what God Himself has already left behind. They refuse growth, revelation, and movement.

That is why maintaining a daily relationship with God is important — so you can know what God is saying now, not just what He said yesterday.

The Israelites wanted to return to Egypt because slavery with garlic and food seemed better than trusting God in the wilderness (Numbers 11:4-6). But God was saying:

  “Leave Egypt and go to the land I promised your fathers.”

That was His current move.

Imagine Abraham killing Isaac because he heard God say, “Sacrifice him,” but was no longer spiritually aligned enough to hear when God said “Lay not thine hand upon the lad.” — Genesis 22:12

God had already provided a ram for sacrifice.

If you stop listening halfway, you may destroy what God never intended you to lose permanently.

It is dangerous to move with old instructions when God has already spoken again.

God also said to Samuel “How long wilt thou mourn for Saul, seeing I have rejected him from reigning over Israel?” — 1 Samuel 16:1

Samuel was still mourning over Saul, but God had already moved on and chosen David.

It is a dangerous thing to hold onto what God has departed from.

5. God May Be Saying Let Go Because of Distractions

    Sometimes the thing you are holding onto is slowly replacing God in your heart.

God can see when a thing, person, ambition, or desire is distracting you and weakening your intimacy with Him. So He demands that you let go in order to gain your full attention again.

“You shall have no other gods before Me.” — Exodus 20:3

“For I the Lord thy God am a jealous God.” — Exodus 20:5

God treasures relationship with you deeply. He does not want anything taking His place in your heart.

 “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ?” — Romans 8:35

Money should not. Relationships should not. Success should not. Ambition should not.

But many believers already know the answer to what is quietly taking their hearts away from God.

What is that thing you are holding onto so tightly that if God touches it, your heart shakes?

The Benefits of Letting Go When God Says You Should

1. It Keeps You in Right Standing with God

    You are no longer guessing whether God is with you or not, because when God speaks and you obey, you walk in alignment with Him.

2. It Brings You Into Total Trust in God

   If He says let go, then He is already prepared to lead you forward. Letting go teaches daily dependence and trust in divine leading (Proverbs 3:5-6).

3. It Opens You Up to God’s Blessings and Favor

   Obedience to God's word and leading attracts divine favor.

 “To obey is better than sacrifice.” 1 Samuel 15:22

4. It Brings You Into the Realm of God’s Glory and Help

     Paul let go of his old life and embraced Christ. Though he was considered the least among the apostles (1 Corinthians 15:9-10), he labored greatly and God confirmed His word through signs and wonders.

Letting go opens a man up to dimensions of God’s glory he would never have entered otherwise.

5. It Brings Intimacy and Alignment With God

    You stop living on past encounters and past instructions because your heart stays connected to God daily. You become sensitive to His present burden and what the Spirit is saying per season.

     Finally brethren, it is a great honor to walk rightly with God, but you must be willing to die to anything, anywhere, or anyone God is demanding from you. It is sacrifice. And sometimes it is not easy.

But it takes a heart that truly desires the will of God to obey Him completely.

So my dear, what is that one thing the Holy Spirit has been whispering to you about?

I know it is hard, but remember: the death of that thing may birth a greater move of God in your life.

What are you waiting for?

Run to your Maker and surrender in love, because nothing should take you out of the love of God (Romans 8:38-39).

WAIT IN PEACE– Trusting God During Seasons of Waiting

There was this season when I was waiting on God for an answer. I waited patiently for the result, but at some point, I became anxious, doubting the possibility of the answer ever coming through.

One morning, toward the ending part of my quiet time with God, I brought out my note where I had jotted down the prophecies and promises of God concerning that particular issue I was trusting Him for. I read through the little note and was drawn back to when God spoke those words to me. 

Funny enough, when He spoke them, that season had not even surfaced yet. Meaning that God’s word came ahead of time, even before the tough season appeared.

This shows a Father who cares so much about us that even before the difficult season comes, He has already given us His promises to perfect all things. It is a word to fall back on whenever fear and tiredness set in. I can always hold on to the word and be strengthened. 

This reminded me that God had already gone ahead of me, and his word came ahead of the season, reminding me that He already sees the future before we ever arrive there. just like I shared in As for Me: When God Has Already Decided Your Future.

Back to my story, that morning I opened the notebook and located where I jotted down the word of God, but there was still fear and doubt about the possibility of it coming through. Looking at my present situation, it did not seem like there was any light or answer around the corner.

I sat there in tears with only one question in my heart: Could this be possible? Should I really wait or give up on the answer?

But right there, while my heart was battling with those questions and anxiety, came a soft response from the Holy Spirit:

“WAIT IN PEACE.”

It was just a phrase, but it meant a lot to me because right there I regained my strength and peace, not just to keep trusting God, but also to trust Him in peace during the season of waiting.

“WAIT IN PEACE” does not just mean to wait and keep trusting God, but it emphasizes doing all of that in peace and not in anxiety, doubt, or fear, but backing it up with faith.

Peace is evidence that you trust God completely to weather every storm. It reveals the level of our faith and belief in God and His word.

When you are WAITING IN PEACE, you do not just wait, you work. The work in there is to be ready to talk back to that voice whispering fear and doubt, reminding it that God is more than able to do all things you could ever think or ask according to Ephesians 3:20:

“Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us.”

Speak until the voice is silenced. Speak until you believe it and your conscience becomes aware of it. Speak until the answer shows up. Do not stop speaking.

So instead of worrying or doubting God or yourself, make it a choice to WAIT IN PEACE.

Generate an atmosphere of peace around you and not fear. Pray and ask God for inner peace, the peace that surpasses all understanding, according to Philippians 4:7:

“And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

The kind of peace Hannah had after her prayers at Shiloh, followed by the priest’s decree. The Bible says in 1 Samuel 1:18 “So the woman went her way, and did eat, and her countenance was no more sad."

The kind of peace David and his men had when God told him to pursue the Amalekites after they attacked them and carried away their wives and children. Even without knowing the direction of the enemy, they trusted God to make a way, and He did. At last, they returned home with their wives and children. As written in 1 Samuel 30:8:

“And David enquired at the Lord, saying, Shall I pursue after this troop? shall I overtake them? And he answered him, Pursue: for thou shalt surely overtake them, and without fail recover all.”

This shows that after that season of peace came the expected result.

My dear, can you WAIT IN PEACE and allow God to work out your testimony?

Are you encouraged?

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When God Slows You Down: Understanding Divine Roadblocks as Mercy in Disguise

 

Have you ever felt delayed in life while everyone else seems to be moving ahead?

You pray. You plan. You prepare. Yet somehow, just when you try to speed forward, something slows you down again. 

An opportunity closes, plan fails, door shuts and delay appears. Meanwhile, others seem to be accelerating effortlessly.

In those moments, it is easy to question yourself, Am I on the wrong path? Has God forgotten me? Why is my journey so slow ?

 

But what if your delay is not denial? What if your roadblock is not rejection? What if the very thing frustrating you is actually protecting you?

Sometimes, God slows you down because He is saving your life, your destiny, and your purpose. And what feels like an obstacle… is actually mercy.

The Story of the Speed Bumps

In my hometown, reckless driving from motorcycles and cars caused frequent and painful accidents. 

Lives were being lost and families were grieving. The roads that were meant for movement became channels of tragedy.

The community progressive union decided something had to change.

They constructed speed bumps on the roads. Not just one. Not just two. Many of them — very close to each other. So close that as soon as you try to speed up, you immediately meet another bump.

At first, it feels frustrating.

When sitting inside a tricycle or driving a car, climbing those bumps one after another is uncomfortable. It slows the journey. It feels time-consuming. You can’t drive at full speed even if you want to. But here is the truth.

Those bumps are not there to punish drivers, They are not there to waste time, They are there to save lives, The discomfort is intentional, The delay is protective and the interruption is mercy. 

that is how God sometimes works in our lives.

Divine Roadblocks: When God Interrupts Your Speed

In life, not every open door is from God and not every opportunity is aligned with your destiny. Not every smooth path leads to your purpose. Sometimes, God allows roadblocks.

You try to accelerate your career — something slows you down.

You try to force a relationship — it collapses.

You try to rush into a decision — confusion arises.

And you begin to wonder if you are wasting time. But what if God sees an accident ahead that you cannot see?

What if that relationship would have destroyed your peace?

What if that business deal would have damaged your integrity?

What if that opportunity would have pulled you out of His will?

Just like the speed bumps on the road, divine roadblocks are placed to prevent future crashes.

From your human perspective, it looks like limitation but from heaven’s perspective, it is preservation.

Why Do Others Seem to Have a Smooth Road?

One of the hardest parts of experiencing delays is comparison, that season when you look around you it seems others are moving quickly, Their careers are advancing, Their relationships are progressing, Their platforms are growing, Their road looks clear and smooth. Meanwhile, you feel restricted.

But here is something powerful to remember:

You do not know the full map of someone else’s journey.

Some roads are smooth because they are short-term routes.

Some fast lanes lead to sudden ends.

Some easy paths carry hidden dangers.

God designs your journey uniquely. He knows your assignment. He knows your calling. He knows what you carry.

And sometimes, because of the weight of your destiny, He cannot allow you to move at the same speed as others.

So, my dear being slowness does not mean you have failed, the delay does not mean denial, and roadblocks do not mean abandonment. They often mean divine protection.

God’s Mercy Will Not Let You Self-Destruct

We often pray for speed, success, and open doors. But we rarely pray, “Lord, block what is not for me.” Yet one of the greatest expressions of God’s love is unanswered prayers and closed doors.

There are things you asked for that would have harmed you.

There are places you wanted to go that would have derailed you.

There are people you wanted to keep that would have wounded you deeply.

God’s mercy would not allow it.

Sometimes His love says “No.”

Sometimes His protection says “Wait.”

Sometimes His wisdom says “Slow down.”

Just like those speed bumps prevent fatal accidents, divine interruptions prevent destiny crashes.

You may not understand it now, But one day, you will look back and say,

“Thank You, Lord, for not letting me run ahead.”

What Should You Do When Facing Roadblocks?

When life feels delayed, your response determines your growth.

Here are three powerful actions to take:

1. Hold Firmly to God’s Word

Jesus said in Matthew 24:35 “Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words will by no means pass away.”  If God has spoken over your life, His word will stand,Circumstances may have shift, People may leave and Timelines may change. But His promises remain unshaken.

Cling to His Word more than you cling to your schedule.

And sometimes, when life becomes confusing and silent, we begin to wonder whether God is still speaking concerning our situation. 

If you have ever struggled to discern His voice during difficult seasons, read this powerful message on What God may be saying concerning your situation 

If He said you will arrive, you will arrive — even if the journey includes bumps.

2. Pray in the Spirit

The Bible tells us in Romans 8:26-27 that the Spirit helps our weaknesses and intercedes according to the will of God.

 When you pray in the Spirit, you are aligning with divine strategy. You may not understand the delay or not see the bigger picture. But the Holy Spirit sees beyond the roadblock.

Prayer shifts your focus from frustration to trust. So, Instead of complaining about the bumps, you begin to see them as divine signals guiding you safely forward.

3. Stop Comparing Your Journey

Comparison magnifies frustration.

When you constantly measure your speed against others, you miss the beauty of your unique path.

Your road is customized.

Your timing is intentional.

Your preparation is specific.

God is not in a hurry because He is building something sustainable in you.

Sometimes He slows you down to build character.

Sometimes He slows you down to refine your motives.

Sometimes He slows you down to prepare you for something bigger than you imagined.

The Blessing of Arriving Whole

What is the benefit of speed if you arrive broken?

What is the gain of quick success if it costs your peace?

What is the value of fast progress if it destroys your purpose?

God is more interested in your wholeness than your haste.

He would rather you arrive later and complete than earlier and damaged.

Those speed bumps on the road may add minutes to the journey — but they prevent funerals likewise your life delays may add months or years — but they prevent destiny collapse.

And when you finally arrive at your God-ordained destination, safe and whole, you will realize the bumps were blessings.

A Powerful Invitation To Trust the Process

Maybe right now you feel stuck or your plans are not moving as fast as you hoped.

Maybe you are tired of “almost” and “not yet.” But hear this clearly. God has not abandoned you.

If He slowed you down, it is because something ahead required caution.

If He blocked a door, it is because something better is being prepared.

If He delayed you, it is because your destiny demands preparation.

Do not despise the bumps.

Do not curse the delays.

Do not envy smooth roads.

Instead, lift your eyes and say; 

“Lord, if this is Your mercy, I trust You.”

Altar Call: Surrender Your Speed to God

If you have been fighting God’s timing…

If you have been frustrated with delays…

If you have been questioning His plan…

Today is the day to surrender your speed.

Say this prayer:

“Father, I release my timeline into Your hands. Forgive me for every time I complained about the bumps in my journey. If You are slowing me down to protect me, I accept Your mercy. Align my heart with Your will. Teach me to trust Your Word more than my impatience. Lead me safely into my destiny. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”

Let God be your traffic controller, His Word be your GPS and His Spirit guide your pace.

Because when He leads you, you will not crash.

You will not miss your purpose.

You will arrive — preserved, prepared, and victorious.

And one day, you will thank Him for every roadblock that saved your life.

Found in the Place of Assignment: Stop Chasing, Start Living

There’s something deeply powerful about being found where you are supposed to be.
In Scripture, we see a young shepherd boy named David—not in a palace, not on a stage, not chasing visibility—but faithfully tending sheep in obscurity. Yet, it was in that “ordinary” place that he was located, anointed, and announced into destiny.
This brings a question straight to your heart:
Where are you right now?


Are you grounded in purpose, or are you drifting from place to place—east to west—drawn by noise, trends, and wherever the spotlight seems to shine?

The Danger of Chasing Everything

Many people today are not lost because they lack ability—they are lost because they lack focus. They move quickly, but without direction, busy, but not productive, visible, but now not impactful.

It’s easy to get caught up in “what is happening” instead of “what God is saying.” also easy to chase relevance and forget purpose, But purpose is not found in noise rather it is discovered in alignment.

Pause for a moment and Breathe.

Step away from the pressure to “be everywhere” and “do everything.” Not every open door is your door. Not every trending path is your path. Sometimes, clarity doesn’t come from movement it comes from stillness

Ask yourself honest question -- What has God placed in my hands? What comes naturally to me? What can I do that blesses both God’s kingdom and people?

Purpose is often hidden in what you’ve been overlooking.

The Power of the Place of Assignment

Let's look into the life of a woman in the Bible Ruth, She didn’t meet destiny while wandering aimlessly. She met it while working—gleaning in a field. That field was not glamorous. It wasn’t trending. But it was her place of assignment. And there, she encountered Boaz.

And the most important thing about her story is she was not just present, she was intentional, not just busy, she was excellent.

She wasn’t trying to impress anyone. She was simply faithful. And faithfulness positioned her for favor.

My dear can I tell you this Stop Spending Time, Start Living. There is a difference between spending time and living life.

Spending time is passive, it drifts, it follows, it reacts.
Living is intentional, it builds, it grows, it responds to purpose.

Many people are spending years trying to “fit in,” when they were created to stand out in purpose.

You don’t need to follow the crowd to find fulfillment.
You need to follow your assignment.

Practical Steps to Find Your Assignment

1. Disconnect from unnecessary noise
Too many voices can drown out the one voice that matters.


2. Identify your strengths and burdens
What moves you? What problem do you feel drawn to solve?


3. Start small but stay consistent
David didn’t start with Goliath—he started with sheep.


4. Commit to excellence
Ruth stood out because of how she worked, not just where she was.


5. Serve others intentionally
Purpose is often revealed through service.


In conclusion you don’t have to chase purpose—it’s not hiding from you. But you must position yourself to be found in it. So today, let this be your reminder:

Stop running everywhere.
Stop chasing every light.
Stop comparing your journey to others.

Instead—be present where God has placed you.
Work faithfully. Serve diligently. Grow intentionally.

Because when the time comes, just like David and Ruth,

you will be found—right in the place of your assignment.

The Power of a Soft Answer: How Tone Can Open or Close Doors

Have you ever walked away from a conversation knowing you were right, yet still lost the opportunity? Many times, doors don’t close because of what we say, but because of how we say it. A simple interaction in a shop became a life-changing lesson for me—one that revealed how tone, wisdom, and the Holy Spirit can transform conflict into favor. This story is a reminder that gentle words carry power, and a soft answer can open doors truth alone cannot.

Life often teaches us its most important lessons in ordinary places—sometimes in a shop, during a brief conversation, or through a moment we almost overlook. One such lesson came to me some months ago, and it reshaped how I understand communication, wisdom, and the role of the Holy Spirit in our daily interactions.

The Encounter in the Shop

Some months ago, a lady walked into our shop to buy a few items. Like many customers, she carefully looked around before asking for the price of a particular product. I told her the correct price. Almost immediately, she disagreed. She said my brother had told her a different price— which was the same price we bought the goods.

From a business standpoint, that price was impossible. Selling at that amount would mean no profit at all. I responded calmly but firmly. I wasn’t shouting or being rude, but I was very direct. From experience, I knew that some customers use this approach. Statements like “Others sell it cheaper” or “Someone told me another price” are common tactics. If a seller is not careful, they may reduce prices unnecessarily just to keep a customer.

She tried to explain the day my brother supposedly told her that price, but I kept insisting it wasn’t possible. The discussion went back and forth for a short while. Eventually, she dropped the item, brought out her money, and paid only for the smaller things she had already chosen.

At that point, the transaction seemed finished. On the surface, nothing dramatic had happened. I had spoken the truth, defended the business, and avoided selling at a loss. Yet, something deeper was happening within me.

A Scripture That Interrupted My Thoughts

As she stood there, a Scripture suddenly echoed in my heart:

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1)

That verse did not come as a condemnation, but as a gentle correction. I realized that the Holy Spirit was drawing my attention not to what I said, but to how I said it. I had spoken the truth, yes—but my tone had carried firmness without warmth.

The Bible reminds us that God is deeply interested in our words. Scripture says:

“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” (Proverbs 12:18)

In that moment, I understood that wisdom is not only about accuracy, but also about delivery. Truth, when spoken without grace, can still wound.

Choosing a Softer Approach

Almost immediately, I felt prompted to act. I went back to the lady and explained again—this time in a softer tone. I told her that we actually sell another version of the product at the price she mentioned, but the one she had picked was of higher quality. I also added that perhaps my brother made a mistake or maybe she misunderstood him.

This time, I was not arguing. I was explaining. My voice was calm. My words were gentle. The outcome changed completely.

She picked up the item again. Not only that, she also selected additional items. In the end, she paid the exact price she had earlier argued against.

The difference was not in the price. It was not in the product. The difference was in the tone.

A Lesson Beyond Business

That encounter taught me a lesson far deeper than business or sales. It revealed a truth that applies to every area of life: communication shapes outcomes.

Sometimes we lose opportunities, favor, and privileges—not because we are wrong, but because of how we speak. We may have good intentions, solid facts, and honest motives, yet our tone can close doors our truth was meant to open.

The Bible instructs us clearly:

“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.” (Colossians 4:6)

Gracious speech does not mean dishonest speech. It does not mean weakness or compromise. It means wisdom—knowing when to be firm and how to be gentle at the same time.

“I’m Not a People Pleaser” — A Misunderstood Phrase

In today’s world, many people justify harshness by saying, “I’m not a people pleaser.” While it is true that we should not live for human approval, this phrase is often misused to excuse poor communication, impatience, or pride.

The Bible does not call us to please people at the expense of truth, but it does call us to love people through truth. Scripture says:

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs.” (Ephesians 4:29)

Being wise with words is not people-pleasing—it is Christ-like.

The Impact on Relationships and Marriage

This lesson becomes even more important when applied to relationships and marriage. Many homes feel like battlefields, not because love is absent, but because communication is unhealthy. Everyone wants to be heard. Everyone wants to be right. Yet, few are willing to be calm.

When no one wants to lower their voice, arguments escalate. When no one wants to soften their tone, small misunderstandings grow into deep wounds.

Scripture offers clear guidance:

“A gentle answer deflects anger.” (Proverbs 15:1, NLT)

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called children of God.” (Matthew 5:9)

Peacemaking requires humility. It requires choosing peace over pride and understanding over ego. It means asking, “Is my tone building or breaking?”

Jesus as the Perfect Example

Jesus Himself demonstrated the balance between truth and gentleness. He spoke boldly against hypocrisy, yet He responded tenderly to the broken, the confused, and the seeking. When He met the woman at the well, He addressed her truthfully, yet compassionately—and her life was transformed (John 4:1–26).

Jesus reminds us:

“For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” (Luke 6:45)

Our tone often reveals the condition of our hearts. When our hearts are surrendered to God, our words reflect His grace.

Strong Conclusion: Truth Needs Wisdom

Truth is powerful—but tone carries truth.

You can be right and still lose favor.

You can stand your ground and still speak with grace.

You can be firm without being harsh.

Softness is not weakness. It is strength under control.

When we allow the Holy Spirit to guide not just what we say but how we say it, doors open, hearts soften, and peace replaces tension. Opportunities that once slipped away return. Conversations that could have ended in conflict turn into moments of understanding.

So today, before speaking, pause and ask yourself:

• Am I speaking with wisdom or merely defending my position?

• Am I trying to win an argument, or am I trying to win a heart?

Because sometimes, all it takes to turn things around—whether in business, marriage, or daily life—is a softer answer.

Crying Is Not Weakness: A Simple Story That Teaches Strength and Faith

 

Crying is not a sign of weakness; it is a sign that you are human.

Sometimes, tears are simply the soul’s way of releasing pressure when life feels heavy. God never designed us to bottle up pain forever. He understands our tears, and He values them. The Bible reminds us of this truth “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.”— Psalm 56:8 (NLT)

This verse alone tells us that tears are not ignored by God. They are noticed, counted, and honored.

I was reminded of this truth when I watched a short clip on YouTube.

The video showed two toddlers, about one to two years old, standing before two feeding bottles filled with baby food. Naturally, they both wanted to rush forward and grab the food. But standing between them and what they wanted were four lines of sellotape placed across a doorway. To an adult, it looked simple but to the toddlers, it was a serious obstacle. 

They were faced with a choice to find a way through the tape or lose the food. The first toddler saw the tape and immediately began to cry. He was overwhelmed and frustrated. The second toddler reacted differently. He didn’t cry at first; instead, he studied the tape, touching it and trying to find a way through. After several failed attempts, frustration caught up with him too, and he began to cry. 

And then something beautiful happened. The first toddler stopped crying. He looked again — this time with curiosity instead of fear. Starting from the edge, he carefully peeled the tape loose. Slowly, almost playfully, he removed one strip, then another. He stepped forward and realized he could move through. Soon, he was inside.

He picked up one feeding bottle and began to drink. His brother, however, was still standing behind the tape, unsure, even though the way was now open. Instead of ignoring him, the first toddler drank a little, then handed the bottle to his brother and took the second one for himself.

What This Story Teaches Us About Crying

This simple story carries a powerful life lesson. Crying is not weakness. Crying is emotion. It is a natural response to frustration, pressure, pain, and uncertainty. The Bible supports this truth “Jesus wept.”— John 11:35, If Jesus Himself cried, then tears cannot be a sign of weakness. What matters is what we do after the tears.

Another scripture reminds us “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.” (Psalm 30:5)

Tear are not meant to stop us permanently. They are meant to release us so we can rise again. Cry, Rest, Then Rise Again

Sometimes, like the toddlers, we cry because the obstacle looks bigger than us. Sometimes, we cry because we’ve tried and failed. And sometimes, we cry simply because we are tired. And that is okay. The Bible encourages us “Come to Me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28

So if you feel like crying, cry. If you need a break, take it. But don’t stop there.

After the tears, gather yourself.

 After the pause, try again.

After the pain, move forward.

You may discover that the very thing that once made you cry is the thing God uses to show you how strong you truly are

If this message encouraged you, share it with someone who needs strength today.